A Letter to My Future Son

Dear son,

Relationships are hard to make and harder to nurture but once you know the value of a relationship, things become easier. Life is like a roller coaster ride where you have no idea about the next turn.

First date would be amazing and you will be extremely excited to be with the girl of your dreams. Knowingly unknowingly you will have the best time of your life that you will cherish throughout.

Just remember that not all things are permanent and people must leave. Your first relationship will also come to an end because of the priorities that you set. It is at that time when you will realize how difficult it is to overcome a break-up.

Everyone goes through this phase sometime or the other in their lives. It is important that you stay brave and do not lose hope in relationships. If a relationship has come to an end that does not mean a new one will never blossom.

Do not hurry yourself into another relationship as soon as one ends. Give yourself some time to heal and then only enter the next. Enter a relationship when you are ready and not when you are bored.

Don’t sleep with every girl that you get a chance to sleep with because one day someone will come into your life and at that time your past will matter. Don’t make it too ugly to be acceptable. Love will come to you some day; you just have to be patient.

One day you will find the girl of your dreams and you will know it. God has its own ways of teaching us things that are important for us. Have fun in your life and enjoy every moment. Life is too short to remain sad. Go out with friends, watch movies and party hard but don’t cling on to the memories of the past. It will only bring sadness.

One day you will have a beautiful family and I am sure you will forward this piece of advice to your son.

Love,
Mom

How to Make a Blind Date Successful

Being back after a break is refreshing and here I am to share with you some tips on how to make a blind date successful. Blind date which is a social engagement of two people who have not met before is a common thing these days. Every day people meet up to befriend each other and try to start a relationship. I am sharing with you ways in which a blind date can be made successful:

Presentation: It is important to present yourself well when you go on a blind date as the person you are meeting is an absolute stranger. Just like a job interview, the first thing a person looks for is the kind of dress you are wearing and how you are carrying yourself. Also, do not over dress yourself like you are going on a wedding but be sure that you are well dressed

Conversation: So, you are going on a blind date? Make sure you strike a conversation if the other person is unable to do so. Be casual and do not talk about personal things until and unless the other person does so. Be funny and make your date happy because chances are she is equally tensed about the date. Don’t think if it is going to work or not, just be a gentleman and enjoy your date

Don’t go on dinner: How to make a blind date successful is one of the most common questions asked by youngsters these days. To make a blind date successful it is important to meet at a place that is public and where you can talk freely. Make sure that you don’t go on dinner because if the date is boring then too you have to sit in the restaurant till the end and for boys it becomes a compulsion to pay the bill even if they are not willing to do so after a bad date (poor luck)

Find Your Soul mate

Everyone wants to be with the person who is loving, caring and understanding (in short their soul mate) but in the process of finding the perfect one they do not pay attention on the person who can be a perfect partner. For all the readers who believe in the concept of soul mates, this piece of writing is dedicated to you. Some of the ways to find your soul mate are mentioned below:

Love yourself: To find the person who can love you unconditionally, you have to love yourself first. No matter how many flaws you have, love thyself and only then will someone else love you. Be confident in yourself and don’t let anyone bring you down. Have faith that things will eventually fall to the right place and you will be with the person who is right for you.

Don’t be hesitant: Attend parties and date a lot of people before you finally settle down for someone you think is perfect (imperfections come into scene only after marriage). Don’t be hesitant is making mistakes because that is the only way of finding the ONE in this huge world. Just remember not to get yourself into an abusive relationship because that will make you hate relationships. Self esteem should be your priority and leave a relationship as soon as it starts to hurt you.

Be patient: All you folks out there, who want to find their soul mate, have patience. Don’t hurry yourself into a relationship because that could be a wrong decision. Make sure you know the person well before you start making future plans of being with them. Also, it is not necessary that your soul mate belongs to the same town as yours and speaks the same language that you do.

For all the waiting souls out there, it is necessary to be calm if you want to meet your perfect someone because it is not easy to get that one person who can take care of you and make you smile through the tears.

Things I Wish I Knew Before My First Relationship

For all the newly hitched couples, it is ok to be a little scared, a little tensed about your first relationship (everyone is). Make sure that you keep your mind open along with your eyes in order to avoid certain mistakes that most of the people tend to make and later regret about the things they wish they knew before the first relationship. Some of the things that should be kept in mind no matter if the relationship is new or old are mentioned below:

Losing mind: Love is an amazing feeling (at least in the beginning) and the adrenaline rush makes you almost crazy. Common sense goes out of the window and you start floating in the air but all these things are common especially if it is your first relationship. Listening to romantic tracks and a sudden love for rains are some of the common things that you might encounter but make sure you do not surpass the level of imagination. Never make long term decisions in the first six months of being together because chances are, you will have a break up.

Fights are normal: Ah! The first fight, damn it hurts a lot but don’t think it’s the end of the relationship. Fights keep the relationship under control and the couple, sane. Make sure you express all your anger and things that made you feel bad so that the anger does not lingers on (which usually does and becomes the reason for the end of a relationship).

Be realistic: ‘I will bring the Moon for you if you ask for it’ (bullshit), which never happens but for sure, it becomes an embarrassing thing in the future. Be realistic about your relationship and don’t build hopes that will probably never be fulfilled. Building castles in the air will only lead to disappointments. Some problems are inevitable and it is important that you don’t become over emotional about your partner, if it works then wonderful; if it doesn't then you will at least be able to move on in life.

Pros and Cons of Staying Together After Divorce

Now-a-days, with diminishing patience most of the couples are parting their ways without thinking about its effects on the children. Today, I am going to share with you the pros and cons of staying together after divorce for the sake of the children:

One of the most disturbing things about divorce is that children have to suffer a lot without any mistake on their part. They get to see their parents fighting one day after the other (even if they want to see or not) and that causes trauma among the children. Showcasing bad behavior in front of the children can be really damaging and that is why it is important for the parents to showcase good values in front of the children in order to help them shape their future.

Family is one unit and if the parents keep on quarreling children will only attract the negative attributes. Be a responsible parent if you want to see your child grow into a successful individual. I can’t even imagine children living in harmony when the parents are always ready to bring each other down.

Each parent has its own role and living without one can hamper the growth of the child but living with a dysfunctional family where there is no love can be even more damaging. It is the duty of the parents to give their children a secure future by being responsible. Even if you are not in a happy relationship with your spouse, make sure you do not let it show in front of the kids. If you two have decided to stay together for the sake of kids then make sure he is not suffering because of you and if he is, it is better to part ways and stop the trauma.

The points mentioned above will help the parents in deciding what they actually want to do after divorce. Make sure that you take the right decision so as to give the child a better future.

How to Tackle Children that Lie

Tackling children that lie can be a huge problem for the parents and today I am going to discuss the same. Most of the children lie about something or the other just like we adults do and that is why it is completely normal. Some of the ways in which you can tackle your child are mentioned below:

Be patient: When it comes to dealing with your child, make sure that you have a lot of patience. Tackling children is not a child’s play, be calm and patient. Explain your child the severe problems that can arise due to speaking lies. Tell them that it is important to speak the truth so as to be loved and cared for. Threatening the child for speaking lies can make him scared, he can also start lying more often and stop listening to you

Appreciation: How to tackle children that lie is a big question for all the parents and the answer is simple. Appreciate your ward for all the good things that they do, no matter how small or big. Most of the times we ignore the things that our children do and they start feeling left out. Be there for your child and explain him how much you love them for being good. It is my guarantee that your ward will stop lying altogether

Discuss punishment: It is not a big deal to catch a child speaking lies so for the first time be patient and explain him what is expected. Next time tell him what punishment will be given to him in case he lies. Deduction of pocket money, getting grounded for a week and not watching television are some of the ways in which children can understand the importance of speaking the truth

For all the parents who are frustrated with the kind of behavior that their ward is showing, read the above tips and send in your valuable comments. Take care.

Funny Things about Getting Married

Hello dear readers, today I am here with a brand new topic. Where all of you must have heard about marriages, effects and side effects of marriages, I am going to discuss the funny things about getting married. Two people from different walks of life decide of getting married in spite of all there difference and then comes the ‘happy realization’ period when you get to know how different you are from each other and how hilarious and irritating it can be to be married. Some points are mentioned below:

Marrying the whole family: Well, if you are an Indian then this point suits you the best. You not just marry one person but the entire family no matter how irritating they are. His parents should love you and your parents should love him so as to make your relationship possible and happy. On the other hand you have to live according to their life style even if you don’t want to. Some people are lucky enough to get a family who is supportive and values your relationship more than anything else.

Through thick and thin: On your honeymoon, you realize that your husband snores and takes an hour in the washroom to get fresh. Well well, this is just the beginning and get ready for many other things that are going to come up. The point is now you cannot change your decision because you wanted to marry that person. It is better to laugh it off than to cry.

Opposites attract: One of the funny things about getting married is; you get to live with a person who is an absolute opposite of you. You hate the things he likes and he hates things that you love but with time couples tend to sort out their differences. When you start understanding your spouse, things become easy and differences start to diminish.

Above mentioned points are the few things that take place in almost all the relationships, how you deal with them and make your relationship strong is what matters. Take care and keep the love alive.